Tuesday, March 4, 2014

I am NOT a nag.

The other day, I saw the meme that has been circulating around the internet on a friend's Facebook page as seen below:

Image borrowed from http://seejennshrink.blog.com/2013/08/01/miss-bossy-pants-part-1/
In the response, several women commented in agreement of this statement and several voiced other thoughts.  A few women commented that there are some women who are bossy, nagging, etc.   And then one of my friends, Drea from The Maiden Metallurgist, said this,

"I'm not a nag.  I'm detail oriented and results driven."

I really sat back for a moment, and thought - yes.

When I was at BlogHer this past summer, I had the opportunity to listen to Sheryl Sandberg speak.  And I really took to heart what she said at that moment, but maybe in the almost nine months since that keynote speech that message has blurred a bit.

Women and girls are almost never praised or congratulated for the same leadership skills as men and boys are and it shows as those same girls grow up to be the women in our society who are paid less or passed over for the same jobs and promotions.

Even in my own career, I often see that women are typically only in leadership and management positions when there aren't other equally qualified male possibilities as well.  It's tough to see.

Personally, the above quoted text highly resonates with me.  I've been called bossy and a nag more times than I would like to admit, and it's most always come with a negative connotation - not in a joking or playful manner.  But those exact same characteristics in my personality are the reason why I have both bachelor's and master's degrees.  They are the reason why I live in a nice home, drive a nice vehicle, and am able to successfully run my life - not to mention this blog platform.

Now I fully realize that my success so far also has a great deal to do with the environment in which I grew up as well as the parental support I had growing up.  But, I also know that I positioned myself in this life.  Because when it came time for college and I was on my own - I did the studying and put in the work, mainly because I don't give up.  On almost anything.  Ever.

My drive, determination, and passion for not only starting a job - but finishing it - are the same factors though that make me "bossy" or "nagging" in someone else's eyes.

Sure, I'd likely still be living life just fine if I didn't have those parts of me, but because I am that way makes my life so much better in many ways.  And I don't feel like it's something to either be ashamed of or hide from.

It's just who I am.

Let's stop for just a moment and think on this thought - how often have you heard a man being called either bossy or nagging?

No, really - think about it for a moment.

Can't think of any time that has happened?  I can't either.

And that's exactly why this meme needs to continue to float around and be shared, because more awareness of the normalized gender disparity in our society needs to be fought.

You know, with all of us detail oriented and results driven ladies.

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1 comment:

  1. I love this! I especially love Drea's quote, that is EXACTLY how I feel.

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