Recently, there have been several stories in the mainstream media regarding some VERY scary situations that have happened to children while in the care of a daycare provider.
As I mentioned previously, we recently switched daycare providers because of a situation that occurred with which we were uncomfortable. Little man is completely fine, thankfully, and there were no issues relating to him, but there was a problem with another child in the care of our provider that prompted us to look for new care.
Trust is a very hard thing for me personally.
There are a very select few people I fully trust in my life, and to be honest, the number is able to be counted on one hand. I've been burned a few times in the past in personal relationships, and I tend to guard myself, my emotions, and my insecurities quite heavily.
However, when you are a parent- you HAVE to trust in others. Unless one spouse does not ever work, you go practically nowhere (who needs to see a doctor or a dentist, anyway!), and you're almost never alone with your spouse, you are unable to rely solely on yourself and your partner to care for your children.
When you don't have family near by, or your family is unable to care for your children, you are forced to rely on strangers to care for your child.
It sounds really, really odd, right?
I mean, your child is the most prized possession you'll ever hold in your life. You wouldn't hand a million dollars to someone you barely know and expect them to guard it with their life, yet, our children are worth more than thousands of millions of dollars, and we have to do this every day.
Little man playing at daycare
I've been mulling this topic over in my head since we switched daycare providers, but I still can't figure out a resolution in my head. I have to work, at least some, but I have trust issues larger than an ocean and soon-to-be two children for whom I'd throw myself in front of a bus to ensure their safety and happiness.
The textbook, easy answer would be to say you do the best you can.
But- in some situations like we've seen in the media- even when you do your best to find adequate care for your child, that best isn't good enough and scary situations still occur.
I guess at this point, all I can do is work as hard as possible to split schedules with my husband, encourage and support his work endeavors, and try and limit the time my children are away from me. Because in my mind there will never be anyone who cares for my child as well as myself or my husband could. And that is just the nature of being a parent.