Wednesday, July 25, 2012

Boy or Girl?

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We find out the sex of the new baby in about a week, and I'll announce here on the weekend following for my Monday Bumpdate link-up, but until then, I've been thinking a lot about the sex of this new babe.

Prior to having little man, I always thought I wanted a girl.  I'd never had any brothers or even close boy relatives who lived nearby and were involved in my day-to-day life.  So boys- to me- were mainly a big pile of confusing.  I was nervous when we found out that we were having a boy that I wouldn't know what to do, I wouldn't know how to care for a boy like I would a girl.  However, that ended very quickly, as DH was over the moon excited about our first being a boy and I came around soon as well.  

Since having little man, I know that in these early stages, you don't treat boys and girls any differently.  Or, well, at least I don't.  No matter what little man's wants or needs are, I am there for him.  We play, giggle, and snuggle together.  I think that I am more of a 'quiet play' sort of parent anyway.  Little man and I read books, play games, occasionally dance and sing, and do lots of seated tasks.  DH really is the 'fun play' kind of parent.  He loves the rough and tumble, tickles, chasing each other sort of play.  I think DH will be that way no matter if we have a girl or a boy next- just as I'll play the same.  It is just who we are.  It is just how little man plays with us.  

But now, I'm feeling the opposite of what I have felt before, because I'm feeling a little nervous about having a girl.  

Before we go any further- here's my disclaimer.  I know to some- it is a big taboo to say you do or don't want one sex or the other.  That isn't what I'm saying here.  I want whatever baby we're given, and after all we've been through in this pregnancy, what I want is a healthy, happy child.  But I've spoken with a LOT of parents and parents to be, and of those who are being candid, there are very few who don't admit that at one point or another, they felt an inkling of more comfort with having one sex or the other.  I'm just putting my feelings out in the open.

I've always said since having little man that I'd love to have 3 or 4 boys in a row, and then have a girl at the end, so I'd only have one girl and less drama later on.  But, honestly, if I had to guess right now, I'd say that I'm leaning more toward feeling this baby is a girl.  And yes, it does scare me a little bit.  I know I'm female, but all the care down there and wiping the correct way and all that does seem a bit overwhelming after having a baby that I can barely get wiped before he's up and running off.  Not to mention that- while some boys are very sensitive in nature, from everything I've heard from other parents of teens, girls are um- a handful, to deal with later down the line.  Because, I mean, really, after having just two girls, I'm sure there are some days my parents did (and still do possibly?) wish they had a boy who didn't get so worked up over things.

But then I think about frilly dresses, shopping, make-up, doing her hair, and think it might not be so bad.

My dad always told me, when I was pregnant last time with little man, that I was lucky- because I wouldn't have to endure the pain of stepping on Barbie high heels left in the middle of the floor on accident.  But I'll tell you, I stepped on a plastic army soldier the other day, and Dad, I'm pretty sure it was just as painful.  Either way, they have their similarities!  

At the end of the day, as I said before, I will be completely satisfied with whomever the baby I'm growing will be.  I will adjust to what they need, just like I've adjusted to give little man exactly what he needs. But holy goodness- the anticipation is high and I can't wait to find out!

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  1. It's weird how similar my feelings have been to yours (or maybe not, maybe a lot of others think about the same things). We're not finding out until the birth. I will be happy regardless of whether it's a boy or girl, honestly, but I have had the same sort of fears that it sounds like you did with your first about it being a boy. I definitely feel more prepared in some ways for a girl since I'm one also, but my mom has said similar things about boys being easier, especially as teenagers. Hope your US goes well!

  2. I think its very normal to have one favor of gender over the other. It seems like its more acceptable for a man to say it then a women. I get heat all the time from other women when I say I only want girls and no boys. People are like, you should be thankful for whatever it is. And that is not what I mean. I mean I would prefer a girl over a boy but of course all I want is a healthy baby. On the other hand, people think it's funny when my husband says he's running away if we have another girl. I'm pregnant again as well with our second and we are not finding out the gender til the end. However, I want so bad to only have girls {we have a daughter already} but in my heart, I feel this is a boy which I'm happy about because I know how much the husband has been wanting a boy. But still...I'm crossing my fingers for pink :)


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